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The 50 year old women are not the new 30 year old ones

I read this sentence daily: fifty-year-old women are the new thirty-year-old ones. But what sense does a sentence like this have? I disagree, for me the fifty year old women are the fifty ones. I don’t want to be compared to a thirty-year-old woman, that’s a beautiful stage of life I’ve already spent. And I don’t even want to take away the space of wonderful …

Menopause is not the end of beauty and sensuality

We women are all afraid of uttering the word menopause when we talk about ourselves. Not only because some manifestations like hot flashes, insomnia and irritability don’t please us, but because the menopause is associated with the end of our “femininity“. And, in this case, by femininity I mean feeling a female, so attractive and sensual for the other sex. We must dispel this negative …

Eternal love

Every woman, even the least romantic, believes in eternal love. But does eternal love exist? I often see long-term married couples who show signs of exhaustion towards their partner. I don’t know if I’m biased, but it seems to me that this “intolerance” towards the partner is more pronounced in men. Maybe because we (at least those of my generation) we all feel like a …

Are women in their fifties really “invisible”?

Do you remember the story of Robin meeting Dave and spending some wonderful days with him, but when he asks him why he never wanted to have sex with her, he confesses that he is not attracted to her body (link). It is these days the declaration, during an interview with Marie Claire Francia, of the French writer and anchor man Yann Moix on women …

Five things to do to increase our sensuality

That we women are mistreated is a truth, that we are ignored when we reach fifty years is a second truth. This leads many of us to have low self-esteem, to feel like nullity and “finished” as women. But we are not at all finished, rather we have energy, curiosity and desire. And we claim our sensuality because we women are and can be sensual …

Fashion can save the world

You will all know Greta Thunberg, the fifteen-year-old Swedish woman who fights to save the world. Her speech at the World Climate Conference left everyone stunned. When she tells adults: you have stolen our future, it’s like getting a punch in the stomach. Yes, because Greta is right, too many economic interests have depleted the environment and it seems that the phase of no return …

Beautiful despite cancer

Who of us has not suffered on their skin or has seen on the skin of a family member or a friend, the destructive force of cancer? I lived this experience with my father, my mother and some dear friends, besides my best friend, Luisa, whose death gave me the strength to start this blog. The physical and psychological impact of cancer is devastating, the …

If he doesn’t respect you, he doesn’t love you: no to violence

  From an Eures  research, in Italy three women are killed each week. They represent 37.6% of the total homicides committed in our country. The victims are killed in the family or couple and the impressive thing is that the age of the victims has increased. The cause is passionate in most cases, the idea of ​​possession is still rooted in the minds of many …

Women who criticise women

When I started the blog I knew that, showing me, I would have had a lot of criticism. Actually I immediately changed my mind, even the people I imagined could have something to say have appreciated the spirit of my blog. Considering that each of us has our own personal tastes and personality, it is not hard to believe that even aesthetic tastes don’t coincide. …

Caresses and kisses: lost pleasure

How long is it that you don’t caress someone or that you don’t receive caresses? This post will seem strange, but for a while time I reflect on how certain behaviors are lost with time. Embraces, caresses, kisses are actions that occur when we love someone and we receive when we are loved. Not just from a partner, but from a child, a friend, a …

What is real freedom?

I happened several times to read in magazines or see in social media about mature women who rejoice for freedom, finally conquered. The freedom they refer to is not to dye their hair and not to buy clothes or stop wearing makeup. When I listen or read these statements, I remain quite perplexed. I admire women who decide not to dye their hair anymore because they want …

We learn to love ourselves: 10 things to do

  One thing that often happens to us women is not to love ourselves , to have little self-esteem and to think that the needs of the rest of the family are more important than ours, especially the over50 when we no longer feel physically fit. So dear friends here is a mini-list of things to do to start to love ourselves and to realize …